WHAT HAS LIFE TAUGHT YOU LATELY?
This year I was waiting for a new start. I was done with 2015. It was the year that my mom passed away unexpectedly in her sleep and I spent the entire year trying to grieve while raising two little boys, managing her estate in a different country and tackle going back to work. I’m not afraid to admit that I went through a tremendous amount of personal struggle. When you go through something like this, it makes the bumps in the road feel ten times worse and blessings hard to appreciate.
After losing my own mother, I just wanted to be the best mom that I could be to my kids, but a lot of the time I was impatient and short with them. When I sought some help from my doctor, some of the best advice she gave me was “stop trying to be a perfect mom and focus on being a good enough mom”.
Often, I guest host on a group called “Tuesday Coffee Chat” on Instagram. It’s a loop of mommas who ask questions and invite other mommas to answer and offer advice. With a lot of consideration, I finally settled on a question to reflect on the past year.
My question: “What has life taught you lately?”
I was so touched by the amount of heart-felt advice. The advice was so beautiful that I had to share some of them:
Life lately has taught me patience. I am so quick to want to rush everything. I kind of lost the beauty of soaking in a moment and working hard for something, for weeks, and then seeing results. I somehow got in a mindset that things should happen over night. Totally unrealistic. I’m learning to just be okay with where I’m at, keep working, and soaking in everything I can! @basically.beck
Life has taught me to never take anything for granted. @quintessentialmiss
Life has taught me to let things go. I’m always holding my family up to expectations that they never reach and I get let down. I need to just let go of expectations all around. It makes life more enjoyable. @jessicaglaze
Life has taught me to focus more inward. It’s not about the world, it’s about my small family and my tight group of friends. @busytoddler
To stop comparing myself to others! @shire_mama
Two quotes stick in my mind: “The days are long but the years are short” and
“Enjoy the little things for one day you will look back and realize they were the big things.” @nyfoodiefamily
I have the same sort of revelation. Don’t stress the small stuff, it’s not worth it. Enjoy your family and friends as much as possible. You can’t buy time! @april_running_on_empty
Life has taught me the time helps with the grieving process. @jasminelgable
That I need to stop trying to impress other people and just be myself. There is not way to please everyone and I shouldn’t need to. This year I want to live my life remembering that! @almostindianwife
I never ask for help until its too late and end up bitter and burnt out. This year definitely taught me to have the humility to ask for help, and its been amazing how things changed! @povertyluxe
I’ve learned that not everything has to be perfect for life to be awesome and I’m learning to let go of my set preconceived ideas for what happy is. @thereggiochild
I am in charge of my own happiness. @_jadencoal_
That happiness isn’t wrapped up in things or success but the people you spend your time with. @littlefirebrigade
Life has taught me that I’m not Superwoman and I can’t do it all. I have to know my limits. And it’s just as strengthening to know my limits as it is to believe I have none. @saradearblog
So what has life taught me lately? All of the above. Be kind. Be patient. Slow Down. Enjoy the little things. Find joy. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Live in the moment. Ask for help. Be generous. Love.
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